Being an OFW family means your world is bigger than just your hometown. It’s about connecting with different cultures, understanding new ways of doing things, and raising kids who can thrive anywhere. This article aims to give you simple, practical tips on how to handle these cross-cultural situations and help your children become true global citizens. Let’s jump right in!
Understanding the Cultural Landscape
First things first, let’s talk about what “culture” really means. It’s not just about food and festivals; it’s about the way people think, their values, their beliefs, and how they behave. Think of it as the unwritten rules of a society. As OFW families, we’re often living in places with wildly different unwritten rules. For example, the concept of personal space varies hugely. What feels normal in the Philippines might be seen as too close or even rude in some Western countries.
Recognizing Cultural Differences: One of the biggest challenges is simply recognizing that these differences exist. We sometimes assume that everyone thinks the same way we do, but that’s not true! Spend some time observing the local customs. Watch how people interact in public places. Read local news and blogs to get a feel for the local mindset. Don’t be afraid to ask questions – most people are happy to explain their culture to someone who’s genuinely interested.
The Importance of Empathy: Empathy is key here. Try to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Why do they behave the way they do? What might be their motivations? Empathy leads to understanding, which makes it easier to navigate cultural differences with grace and respect. For example, if you’re used to direct communication, but you’re working in a culture that values indirectness, try to be more patient and listen for the implied meaning behind the words. This website from Culture Awareness explains it in more details.
For OFWs: Bridging the Gap
When you’re an OFW, you’re essentially living in two worlds: the world of your host country and the world of your family back home. Bridging this gap can be challenging, but its importance cannot be unstated. One great way is to share your experiences with your family. Tell them about the food you eat, the customs you’ve encountered, and the things you’ve learned. Show them pictures and videos. Make them feel like they’re part of your new life.
Maintaining Filipino Identity: Even while embracing a new culture, it’s vital to maintain your Filipino identity. Speak your language at home, cook Filipino food, and celebrate Filipino holidays. Make sure your children know their roots. It’s important that our children have a sense of belonging and pride in their heritage. For instance, if you live in a country where Christmas isn’t a big deal, still try to recreate some Filipino Christmas traditions. This small acts of remembrance can go a long way to maintain a sense of continuity.
Technology is Your Friend: Thanks to technology, staying connected is easier than ever. Use video calls to talk to your family regularly. Share photos and videos on social media. Send care packages with Filipino snacks and treats. These simple acts can help you feel closer to your loved ones, even when you’re miles apart. Using apps like WhatsApp or Viber ensures consistent communication. Consider establishing regular times for video calls to ensure you get quality time with your family.
For the Family Back Home: Understanding the OFW’s World
It’s not easy being left behind. As a family member staying home, it’s important to understand the challenges that OFWs face. They’re often working long hours, dealing with culture shock, and missing their loved ones terribly. Try to be understanding and supportive.
Showing Appreciation: Let your OFW know how much you appreciate their sacrifices. A simple thank you can go a long way. Acknowledge their hard work and let them know that you’re proud of them. “Papa, we are so grateful that you are working tirelessly for us. We will study hard and not waste your money. We love you!” is a simple yet powerful example.
Being Independent: One of the best ways to support your OFW family member is to be independent. Learn to handle household chores, manage finances wisely, and deal with problems on your own. This will not only ease their burden but also help you develop valuable life skills.
Learning About Their Host Country: Show an interest in the OFW’s host country. Ask questions about their work, their friends, and their experiences. Learn a few basic phrases in their language. This will show them that you care about their life and that you’re making an effort to understand their world. It shows you’re willing to learn which makes you more relatable.
Raising Global Citizens: Tips for the Kids
Raising children in an OFW family is a unique opportunity to nurture global citizens. Here are some tips to help your kids develop a global mindset:
Expose Them to Different Cultures: Even if you’re not living abroad, there are many ways to expose your kids to different cultures. Watch movies and TV shows from other countries, read books about different cultures, visit ethnic restaurants, and attend cultural festivals.
Encourage Language Learning: Learning a new language opens up a whole new world. Encourage your kids to learn the language of your host country or any other language they’re interested in. It will make it easier for them to communicate with people from other cultures and appreciate different perspectives. Duolingo is a free language app. Also, find fun language exchange partners online to practice conversations.
Travel When Possible: If you have the opportunity to travel, take it! Traveling is one of the best ways to experience different cultures firsthand. Let your kids participate in the planning process so they get excited about the trip. Encourage them to try new foods, visit historical sites, and interact with local people.
Teach About Tolerance and Respect: Teach your children to be tolerant and respectful of others, regardless of their background. Explain that people may have different beliefs and customs, and that’s okay. Emphasize the importance of treating everyone with kindness and compassion. Make it clear discrimination or prejudice is never acceptable.
Handling Culture Shock
Culture shock is a common experience for anyone living in a new country. It’s the feeling of disorientation and discomfort that comes from being immersed in a different culture. Symptoms can include feeling homesick, irritable, anxious, or even depressed. The article from everydiploat.com describes culture shock symptoms in details.
Recognizing the Symptoms: The first step in dealing with culture shock is recognizing the symptoms. If you or your family members are experiencing any of the above, it’s important to acknowledge that it’s normal and that it will pass.
Finding Support: Seek out support from other OFWs or expats in your area. Talk about your experiences and share your feelings. Knowing that you’re not alone can be a huge relief. Social media groups and organizations geared towards expatriates can be great sources of information and social connection.
Maintaining a Routine: Try to maintain a routine as much as possible. This will help you feel more grounded and in control. Eat regular meals, exercise, and get enough sleep. Also, continuing hobbies is important.
Focusing on the Positive: Focus on the positive aspects of your new life. What do you enjoy about your new country? What have you learned? What new experiences have you had? Keeping a gratitude journal can help you focus on the good things in your life.
Communication is Key
Good communication is essential for any family, but it’s especially important for OFW families. When you’re living apart, it’s easy for misunderstandings to arise. Clear and honest communication can help prevent these problems. Try to schedule regular calls or video chats with your family members. During these conversations, listen actively and try to understand their perspectives. Be open and honest about your own feelings and concerns.
Active Listening: Being a good listener is as important as being a good communicator. It’s easy to be distracted in a conversation when you’re thinking of what next to say. Pay attention to what they’re actually saying, and not just the words. Asking follow-up questions will show that you’re engaged in the conversation and want to understand their feelings.
Avoiding Assumptions: Avoid making assumptions about your family members’ thoughts and feelings. Instead, ask them directly. Don’t assume they agree with your decisions or that they know how you’re feeling. Clear communication can prevent misunderstandings. For example, instead of assuming your child is doing well in school, ask them about their classes and any difficulties they may be having.
Expressing Love and Appreciation: Don’t forget to express your love and appreciation for your family members. A simple “I love you” or “thank you for everything you do” can mean the world, especially when you’re living far apart. Find creative ways to show you care, such as sending personalized gifts or writing heartfelt letters.
The Benefits of Being a Global Citizen
Raising global citizens has many benefits. Your children will develop a broader perspective on the world. They’ll be more open-minded, tolerant, and empathetic. They’ll be better communicators and problem-solvers. They’ll be more adaptable and resilient. And they’ll be better prepared to succeed in an increasingly interconnected world. They are exposed to various cultures, develop intercultural communication skills and become more adaptable. These skills are beneficial to personal and professional growth.
Frequently Asked Questions
Here are some frequently asked questions about navigating cultural differences as an OFW family:
How do I deal with homesickness?
Homesickness is a common experience for anyone living away from home. To cope with it, try to stay connected with your family and friends back home. Create a support network in your new location by joining clubs or groups with people who share your interests. Keep yourself busy with work, hobbies, and other activities. And remember that homesickness will pass eventually.
How do I help my children adjust to a new culture?
Moving to a new country can be challenging for children. Be patient and supportive. Talk to them about their feelings and concerns. Encourage them to participate in activities that will help them meet new friends and learn about their new culture. Maintain some familiar routines and traditions from home to provide a sense of stability.
How do I handle cultural misunderstandings?
Cultural misunderstandings are bound to happen when you’re living in a different culture. When they do occur, try to stay calm and avoid getting defensive. Apologize if you’ve inadvertently offended someone. Ask questions to clarify what went wrong and learn from the experience. You can avoid future issues.
How can I stay connected with my family back home?
Technology makes it easier than ever to stay connected with your family back home. Use video calls, social media, and messaging apps to communicate regularly. Send care packages with Filipino products and treats. Plan trips home whenever possible.
What are some of the unique challenges faced by OFW children?
OFW children may experience feelings of abandonment, loneliness, and resentment. They may also struggle with identity issues and cultural confusion. It’s important to address these challenges openly and honestly. Provide your children with plenty of love, support, and reassurance. Seek professional help if necessary.
How do I ensure my children remember their Filipino heritage?
Maintaining your Filipino heritage is essential, especially when living abroad. Speak Filipino at home, cook Filipino food, and celebrate Filipino holidays. Share stories about your family history and traditions. Enroll your children in Filipino language or culture classes. Connect with other Filipino families in your community.
References
Culture Awareness. (n.d.). “What is Cultural Awareness?”.
everydiploat.com. (n.d.). “Cultural Shock”.
Instead of just saying goodbye, I want to challenge you: start small. Pick one thing from this article and implement it this week. Maybe it’s scheduling a regular video call with your family, trying a new cultural dish, or simply having an open conversation about cultural differences. The goal is to take action and keep moving forward. These steps will make our OFW families stronger, more connected, and more prepared to thrive in a globalized world. Start this journey today, and let’s build a future where our children are not just citizens of the Philippines, but true global citizens, ready to make a positive impact on the world!
