Having a family member working overseas as an Overseas Filipino Worker (OFW) is a big part of life for many Filipino kids. To help you understand and appreciate everything your OFW family members do, and to keep our Filipino culture strong, let’s learn about some traditions connected to OFWs that you can practice and share!
Why OFWs are Important
First, let’s talk about why OFWs are so important. OFWs are Filipinos who work in other countries. They often work in jobs that help support their families back home in the Philippines. According to the Philippines Statistics Authority, in 2022, there were an estimated 1.96 million OFWs. They send money home, which helps families buy food, pay for school, and build better lives. In fact, remittances from OFWs make a significant contribution to the Philippine economy.
Think of it like this: imagine your family needed extra money for something important, like getting you the books needed for a class, or fixing your house. An OFW family member is like a superhero who goes out into the world, works hard, and sends back the help you need. It’s not always easy being far from family and friends, but they do it out of love and dedication.
Pamamanhikan: Planning for the Big Homecoming
Okay, so an OFW is coming home! One important tradition that sometimes starts even before they come home is called pamamanhikan. This isn’t something kids usually take part in directly in every family, but understanding it is helpful, especially as you get older. Pamamanhikan basically means asking for permission or seeking blessings. In the context of an OFW’s homecoming, especially if they’ve been away for a long time, it can mean family members, normally older relatives, consulting with each other about how to properly welcome the OFW home and support them as they reintegrate back into the family and daily life. Sometimes, this may involve seeking advice on how to manage the money the OFW has sent.
For example, the elders of the family might meet to discuss getting the house ready for the arrival, or planning a special meal. They might even seek advice from a financial planner on how to best invest or save the OFW’s earnings. It’s all about planning and making sure everything is in place for a smooth and happy homecoming! Ask your parents or grandparents if your family practices something similar, and how you can help with the preparations.
Salubong: The Heartwarming Welcome
The homecoming itself is a special occasion! Many families practice salubong, which means “to welcome.” Imagine going to the airport or bus station with signs, balloons, and big smiles to greet your OFW family member. This shows them how much they were missed and how happy you are to have them home. Remember to bring something special if you can – a handmade drawing, a small gift, or just a big hug!
Salubong isn’t just about picking them up at the airport. It’s about making them feel loved and appreciated from the moment they arrive. The key ingredients are smiles, hugs, happy tears, and lots of “Welcome home!” Remember, they’ve been working hard and missing you all, so your warm welcome means the world to them.
Actionable Steps for a Great Salubong
- Make cards or banners saying “Welcome Home!”.
- Prepare your OFW’s favorite dish.
- Greet them with a warm hug and kiss.
- Ask them about their journey and how they are feeling.
Handa: A Feast of Love
After the salubong, often comes the handa (feast). Filipinos love to celebrate with food, and an OFW’s homecoming is definitely a reason to celebrate! This is a special meal prepared to welcome them back. Your family might cook your OFW’s favorite dishes, like adobo, sinigang, or lechon. It’s a time for everyone to gather around the table, share stories, and enjoy each other’s company. Participating in the handa can be as simple as helping set the table, offering drinks, or even trying to help with the cooking (if you’re allowed!).
For example, grandma might start cooking days in advance to prepare all the special dishes. Your mom might decorate the house with balloons and streamers. You can help by setting the table with the best plates and cutlery, or by making place cards for each family member. Remember to ask your OFW what their favorite food is so you can see if you can ask your parents to prepare it. During the meal, be sure to listen to their stories and share your own. This is a great opportunity to bond and create lasting memories.
Pasalubong: Gifts from Abroad
Speaking of memories, OFWs often bring back pasalubong – gifts from the country where they worked. These aren’t just any gifts; they’re symbols of your OFW’s love and remembrance. Pasalubong can be anything from chocolates and clothes to toys and souvenirs. It’s a tangible way for them to share a piece of their experiences abroad with you. Knowing that they were thinking of you while they were away makes these gifts even more special.
When you receive pasalubong, remember to express your gratitude. A simple “thank you” goes a long way, but you can also show your appreciation by using or wearing the gifts they brought you. If it’s food, offer to share it with the rest of the family. And, most importantly, tell them how much you appreciate their thoughtfulness. Remember, the gift itself is less important than the love and effort behind it.
Simba: Offering Thanks
Many Filipino families also make it a tradition to go to church or offer prayers (simba) soon after an OFW arrives home or when they are about to leave. This is a way of thanking God for keeping your loved one safe during their time abroad, and asking for continued blessings and protection in the future. Going to church together as a family is a beautiful way to express your faith and gratitude. Even if your family isn’t religious, you can still offer a prayer of thanks in your own way, or simply express your gratitude for your OFW’s safe return.
While at church, listen to the homily and reflect on the sacrifices your OFW family members have made. You can also offer a special prayer for their continued health and well-being. Remember, showing your faith is a powerful way to honor them and their dedication to your family.
Kamustahan: Checking In and Staying Connected
Kamustahan simply translates to a check-in, or catching up. It’s incredibly important to stay connected with your OFW family member, even after the initial excitement of their homecoming dies down. Regular phone calls, video chats, and text messages can help them feel like they’re still a part of your daily life. Share your day-to-day experiences, ask about their life abroad, and let them know you’re thinking of them. Remember, they miss you just as much as you miss them!
Here are some practical ways to make kamustahan a regular habit. You could suggest a weekly video call where everyone can share their news. If the time difference makes it difficult, try sending photos or short videos throughout the week. Encourage other family members to participate too, so your OFW feels included in all aspects of your life. Don’t underestimate the power of a simple “Good morning!” or “Good night!” text message to brighten their day.
Alaga: Taking Care of Our OFWs
After working hard and being away from home, it’s essential to alaga (take care of) our returning OFWs. This means looking after their physical and emotional well-being. Encourage them to rest and relax after their long journey. Offer to run errands for them, cook their favorite meals, and just spend quality time together. Most importantly, be patient and understanding as they adjust to being back home. They may experience culture shock or have difficulty readjusting to the routines of daily life in the Philippines.
Encourage them to engage in activities they enjoy, whether it’s spending time with friends, pursuing a hobby, or simply relaxing at home. Listen to their stories and offer support if they’re struggling with any challenges. Remind them that they are loved and appreciated, and that their sacrifices have made a positive difference in your lives. You can also see if there’s anything practical you can help with to ease them back into life at home, like driving them to appointments, helping them with paperwork, or teaching them about social media if they aren’t comfortable using it.
Ipamana: Passing on the Traditions
One of the most important things you can do is ipamana (pass on) these traditions to future generations. Share stories about your OFW family members and the sacrifices they’ve made. Teach your children about the importance of salubong, handa, and pasalubong. By keeping these traditions alive, you’re ensuring that the spirit of family, love, and gratitude continues to thrive.
Organize Filipino-themed celebrations, cook traditional dishes, and teach your kids about the history and culture of the Philippines. Show them photos and videos of your OFW family members and share stories about their experiences abroad. Encourage them to write letters or draw pictures to send to your OFWs, so they can feel connected to their Filipino heritage. By instilling these values in the next generation, you’re ensuring that the legacy of our OFWs lives on.
Dealing with Feelings When They Leave Again
It’s important to acknowledge that it’s not always easy having a family member working abroad. It can be hard when they leave again. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or lonely. Talk to your parents, siblings, or other trusted adults about how you’re feeling. Remember that your OFW family member loves you very much, and they’re doing what they believe is best for the family. Focus on the positive aspects of their work, such as the opportunities it provides for you and your family.
Try to find healthy ways to cope with your emotions, such as writing in a journal, drawing, playing sports, or listening to music. Remember that you’re not alone. Many other Filipino kids have similar experiences, and there are resources available to help you cope with the challenges of having an OFW family member. Seek support from friends, teachers, or counselors if you’re struggling to manage your feelings. You can also find online communities and support groups where you can connect with other kids who understand what you’re going through.
Other Ways to Show Your Appreciation: Beyond the Traditions
Beyond all the traditions we touched on, there are even more ways kids can actively show appreciation for their OFW family members. These simple gestures can mean the world and strengthen those crucial family bonds.
First, excel in your studies. Good grades are a tangible way to show that you understand the sacrifices the OFW is making to support your education. It’s a way of saying, “I’m taking advantage of this opportunity, and I’m making your hard work worthwhile.”
Second, be helpful around the house. Chores can feel like a burden, but they become a powerful act of gratitude when you do them without being asked. Offer to wash dishes, clean your room, or help with the laundry. Taking on these tasks lightens the load for other family members and frees up their time to spend with the returning OFW.
Third, become a storyteller. Share your daily experiences with the OFW in a vivid and engaging way. Be their eyes and ears back home. Tell them about school events, family gatherings, and funny moments that happened during the day. This helps them feel connected to your life and reduces the feelings of isolation that often come with being far away.
FAQ About OFWs and Traditions
Here are some common questions about OFWs and the traditions surrounding them:
Why do Filipinos work overseas?
Many Filipinos work overseas to earn a better income and provide for their families back home. They may also seek better job opportunities and a higher quality of life in other countries.
What are some of the challenges faced by OFWs?
OFWs often face challenges such as being separated from their families, adjusting to a new culture, dealing with loneliness and homesickness, and facing potential discrimination or exploitation.
How can I support my OFW family member?
You can support your OFW family member by staying connected with them, showing your appreciation for their sacrifices, and helping them adjust to being back home when they return. You can also offer practical assistance such as running errands or helping with household chores.
How can I help preserve Filipino traditions related to OFWs?
You can help preserve these traditions by learning about them, practicing them with your family, and sharing them with others. You can also teach them to future generations so that they continue to thrive.
Is it okay to feel sad when my OFW family member leaves again?
Yes, it’s perfectly normal to feel sad when your OFW family member leaves again. It’s important to acknowledge your feelings and talk to someone about them. Remember that your OFW family member loves you and is doing what they believe is best for the family.
References
Philippine Statistics Authority. (2023). 2022 Overseas Filipino Workers.
Scalabrini Migration Center. (Various Publications). Examining issues related to migration and Filipino diaspora.
Ready to Keep the Traditions Alive?
Now that you know more about OFWs and the beautiful traditions that surround them, it’s time to put your knowledge into action! Talk to your family about how you can celebrate these traditions together. Offer to help prepare for the next homecoming, learn a traditional Filipino dish, or simply spend quality time with your OFW family member. By embracing these practices, you’re not only honoring their sacrifices but also strengthening your family bonds and preserving our rich Filipino culture. So, what are you waiting for? Start spreading the love and gratitude today!
