Returning home after working abroad as an Overseas Filipino Worker (OFW) is a huge step – not just for the OFW, but for the whole family. It’s exciting, but it’s also a time that needs careful planning to make sure everyone is ready for the changes.
The Rollercoaster of Emotions: What to Expect
Imagine finally coming home after years of being away. You’re probably feeling happy, maybe a bit nervous, and definitely relieved. Your family is likely feeling the same things! There’s the initial excitement of the reunion, the hugs, the stories, and then… well, reality sets in. Everyone has to adjust to a new normal. It’s like a rollercoaster – highs and lows are to be expected. One study by the Scalabrini Migration Center highlights the psychological impact of migration on both OFWs and their families, showing that adjusting to life after repatriation can be a challenging emotional process.
Kids who were very young when their parents left might not remember them very well. Older kids will have their own routines and ways of doing things. Spouses also need to reconnect and rediscover each other. Open communication is key here. Talk about your expectations, your fears, and your hopes for the future. Don’t be afraid to admit if you’re struggling. Remember, it’s a team effort.
Financial Planning: From Savings to Sustainable Income
Let’s face it, a major reason people work abroad is to earn more money. So, what happens to all those savings when the OFW comes home? It’s tempting to spend it all on things you’ve been dreaming about – a new house, a car, that long-overdue vacation. And while it’s okay to treat yourself, it’s also important to think long-term. A large sum of money can disappear quickly if not managed properly.
The first step is to create a budget. Sit down as a family and figure out your monthly expenses. Then, look at your savings and decide how much you can realistically allocate to different goals. It’s a great idea to keep separate accounts for different purposes, like emergency fund, education fund, and investment fund. A good rule of thumb is to have an emergency fund that can cover at least 3-6 months of living expenses. This provides a financial cushion in case of unexpected job loss or medical emergencies.
Consider investing in something that can provide a sustainable income. This could be a small business, rental property, or even stocks and bonds. The Philippine Stock Exchange (PSE) offers resources for Filipinos looking to invest in the stock market. Of course, investing involves risk, so it’s important to do your research and consult with a financial advisor before making any decisions.
Avoid the temptation to lend money to everyone who asks. It’s tough to say no, especially to family and friends, but lending money can strain relationships and deplete your savings. Instead, consider helping people by providing them with opportunities or connecting them with resources that can help them improve their own financial situation.
Finding a Job or Starting a Business: Reintegrating into the Workforce
One of the biggest challenges that returning OFWs face is finding a job. The job market back home may be different from what they’re used to, and they may have to accept lower salaries than they were earning abroad. Some OFWs are able to find jobs related to their previous work experience, but others have to start from scratch. It might make sense to consider upskilling or reskilling via online courses or training programs to enhance professional marketability. TESDA, Technical Education and Skills Development Authority, for example, offers free courses to Filipinos looking to boost their skills.
Starting a business is another popular option for returning OFWs. It allows them to be their own boss and potentially earn a higher income. However, starting a business also requires careful planning and a lot of hard work. The Department of Trade and Industry (DTI) has numerous resources and programs to help aspiring entrepreneurs. They can also help with registering the business and complying with regulations.
Don’t be afraid to start small. You don’t need to invest a lot of money upfront. You can start with a small online store, a food cart, or even a freelance service. As the business grows, you can reinvest your profits and expand your operations. It’s also a great idea to seek advice from the Department of Migrant Workers, DMW. They’re in place to ensure OFWs are supported as they try to reintegrate back into the Philippines.
Family Dynamics: Rebuilding Relationships
Being physically separated for a long time can take a toll on family relationships. Kids grow up, spouses change, and everyone develops their own way of doing things. Rebuilding those relationships takes time, effort, and a lot of patience. It’s also important to remember and understand that all situations are different. Some OFWs have great families that look forward to their return. Others maybe have to deal with broken relationships, money mismanagement or other problems caused by issues surrounding the OFWs work.
One of the most important things you can do is to spend quality time together. This doesn’t mean just being in the same room; it means actually engaging with each other. Have conversations, play games, go on outings, and create new memories. Make an active effort to be present in each other’s lives.
Couples need to reconnect emotionally and physically. Go on dates, rediscover each other’s interests, and communicate openly about your feelings and needs. Don’t be afraid to seek counseling if you’re struggling to resolve conflicts. A Marriage and Family Therapist can provide guidance and support.
Parents need to reconnect with their children. Listen to their concerns, understand their perspectives, and be involved in their lives. Attend school events, help with homework, and be there for them when they need you. Remember, your kids may have gotten used to being independent while you were away, so it’s important to find a balance between being involved and giving them space.
Health and Well-being: Taking Care of Yourself
Working abroad can be physically and emotionally demanding. It’s important for returning OFWs to prioritize their health and well-being. Schedule a check-up with your doctor to make sure you’re in good physical condition. Get enough sleep, eat a healthy diet, and exercise regularly. It might also be a good idea to consult with a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for a check-up on your mental health.
Don’t neglect your mental health. Working abroad can be stressful and isolating. When OFWs return home, there is a chance the effects of that trauma stay with them. If you’re feeling anxious, depressed, or overwhelmed, seek professional help. There are many resources available, including therapists, counselors, and support groups. Taking care of your mental health is just as important as taking care of your physical health.
Find healthy ways to cope with stress. This could be anything from spending time with loved ones to pursuing a hobby to practicing meditation. The important thing is to find something that helps you relax and de-stress. Avoid turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms like alcohol or drugs. A proper amount of sleep and a healthy diet will help reduce stress.
Community Involvement: Giving Back
After working abroad and achieving your goals, it’s a wonderful idea to give back to your community. You can share your knowledge, skills, and resources to help others improve their lives. There are many ways to get involved, from volunteering at a local charity to mentoring young people to starting your own community project. A small donation to a charity or non-profit, or even a quick visit during volunteer work, will help change communities.
Consider organizing a livelihood training program for other returning OFWs. Share your experiences and teach them the skills they need to start their own businesses. You can also partner with local organizations to provide financial assistance or mentorship to aspiring entrepreneurs.
Be a role model for younger generations. Share your story of hard work, perseverance, and success. Show them that anything is possible if they set their minds to it.
Legal and Documentation: Settling Back In
Make sure all your documents are in order. Check your passport, visa, and other important papers. Ensure these are accessible in case of emergencies. Update your Philippine IDs to remain compliant. If your visa changed while you were overseas, it is important to update your passport information again. Consider keeping a copy of all documents available online through secure cloud storage. This helps prevent loss of documents.
It’s helpful to review your legal obligations. Did you get married in another country? Did you buy property abroad? Make sure you understand the legal implications of these actions and take any necessary steps to comply with Philippine law. Consult with a lawyer if you have any doubts.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
Q: What if my family isn’t happy that I’m back?
A: It’s understandable that your family might have mixed feelings. They’ve gotten used to life without you, and adjusting to your presence can be challenging. Be patient, understanding, and communicate openly. Focus on rebuilding relationships and creating new memories. If things are difficult, consider family counseling.
Q: I spent all my savings. What do I do now?
A: Don’t panic! It happens. The first step is to create a budget and track your expenses. Look for ways to cut back on unnecessary spending. Then, explore income-generating opportunities, such as finding a job, starting a small business, or freelancing. Consider seeking financial advice from a qualified professional to help you develop a plan to get back on track.
Q: I can’t find a job. What are my options?
A: The job market can be tough. Don’t give up! Update your resume and cover letter, and network with people in your field. Consider taking online courses or training programs to enhance your skills. Explore alternative work arrangements, such as freelancing, remote work, or starting your own business. Seek assistance from the Department of Labor and Employment (DOLE), Bureau of Local Employment, for guidance and support.
Q: How do I adjust to life in the Philippines after being away for so long?
A: It takes time to adjust to a new environment. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself to experience the culture shock. Connect with other returning OFWs for support and guidance. Explore your local community and rediscover what you love about the Philippines. Focus on the positive aspects of being home and enjoy spending time with your loved ones.
Q: Where can I seek immediate help as an OFW?
A: The Department of Migrant Workers (DMW) and Overseas Workers Welfare Administration (OWWA), OWWA, are two key government agencies that are committed to OFW care. In addition to this, there are Migrant Resource Centers in select locations overseas where OFWs can seek in-person legal and psychological help.
References
Scalabrini Migration Center
Philippine Stock Exchange (PSE)
Technical Education and Skills Development Authority (TESDA)
Department of Trade and Industry (DTI)
Department of Migrant Workers (DMW)
Department of Labor and Employment (DOLE), Bureau of Local Employment
Overseas Workers Welfare Administration (OWWA)
Ready to come home? Don’t just dream about it – plan for it! Take these tips to heart, start preparing now, and make your return a successful and fulfilling chapter in your life. By planning for the future, ensuring that your return to the Philippines is secure, and taking the proper steps while overseas, you will be ready to live a happy and prosperous life back in your home country.
